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Why I’m glad I didn’t have a birth plan

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I’m one of lives planners. I love a to do list. I have to know where we’re going and when and doing something on the spur of the moment scares the life out of me. Basically, I’m a control freak.
Way before I was even considering having a baby, I told my mum that I would be having a C section, purely so I knew what day to expect baby. Crazy, huh? But that’s the way I am. I hate the unexpected and not being in control of things and so a C section was my only possibility.

Fast forward a few years, I’m pregnant with a baby girl (of course I found out the gender so I could plan colour themes in the nursery, buy clothes etc) and you’d think I’d be carefully etching my birth plan in perfectly neat writing, clear for every health professional at the hospital to read, wouldn’t you? Except, I kept putting it off. For the first time in my life, I had no plan. I didn’t know what I wanted other than for labour to be as quick as possible. In fact the only thing I did want, an epidural, had been taken out of my hands as I’d been assigned to the midwife led ward which meant an epidural was out of the question. I continued to hold off on writing my birth plan, sure that one day I’d wake up and suddenly I’d know what I want. Sadly, that day never arrived, so at 35 weeks, I scribbled a couple of things in the birthing plan section of my notes.

‘Gas and air’.
‘Baby to have vitamin k injection’
‘Midwife to cut the cord’

Not much of a birthing plan, was it?

Instead, when I went into labour, I decided what I wanted as and when I wanted it. Unfortunately, it didn’t always come in a timely manner, and I ended up having Pethadine far too late on for it to have any effect (8 minutes before baby arrived to be precise). I was only at the hospital for 3 hours before little one was born and it all happened quite quickly. In the end I was rushed from the midwife led ward to the consultant led ward due to complications and gave birth with no fewer than 10 doctors and midwives in the room with me – definitely not something I would have planned! So I’m glad I didn’t plan my baby’s birth in any great detail as I think I would have been more upset that things hadn’t worked out as I wanted rather than going with the flow on the day.

Did you write a birth plan and did you manage to stick to it or did baby refuse to play ball?


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  1. I'm a list kinda girl too! I love to plan. A birth plan… Nope I didn't bother. I'd done too many Dr Google searches and came to the conclusion there was no point in planning. I'm glad I didn't. I'm my head I thought I'd breathe that baby out… I'm reality three days in I was whisked off for an emergency C-section. Second time round – I planned. Elective all the way! unfortunately even that didn't go to plan! But two healthy boys in I'm feeling pretty lucky.

  2. Giving birth was the only part oo fmy pregnancy that I didn't plan. The way I looked at it was that if I set my heart on having what I thought was 'the perfect birth', I would be disappointed if it didn't happen. As it happened I was induced 12 days post due date, and had my daughter delivered by forceps, catching her shoulder on the way out and fracturing her collarbone! My mum was devastated, but for us it was 'normal', we knew no different and we just got on with it – as you do. I often wonder whether I'd have coped with what everyone kept telling me was a traumatic birth if I'd had a strict birth plan. #HoneybeeLinky

  3. Thanks for sharing your story with us, Kim 🙂 Sounds like you had a tricky delivery.

  4. I'm glad I'm not the only one who relies on Dr Google 🙂 Wow, 3 days?! That must have been tough.

  5. I did write a birth plan, but it was more of an idea. I had written in the plan that it was a guide and I was open to suggestion. Mine and babies safety was what was important. On my first birth we deviated away from the plan as Reuben was back to back and I was struggling, but with Jessica it was to my plan exactly. I think having a plan as an idea is a good idea but you have to know it is there as a guide. #HoneybeeLinky

  6. Thank you for sharing with us 🙂 Sounds like a good idea to state that you're open to suggestion – I'll remember that if there's a next time!

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