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Christmas - How do you decide who to buy for?

By December 10, 2017 ,

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Parents, Grandparents, Siblings, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Neighbours, where do you draw the line? Each year our list of people to buy Christmas gifts for is getting longer and longer and while I love buying gifts for people is does feel like it's getting a little bit ridiculous.

Each year I find myself in the predicament of trying to determine who I should feature on the gift list and who to miss out. There's just no way we can buy for everyone, we'd literally have zero money left if we did. There's people I feel we should be buying for that tell us over and over again that we're not to buy them at gift - my other half's Nan is prime example of this. She says she can't afford to buy us one so we mustn't get her anything, but it feels wrong to me to not buy her a gift, so we always sneak her a little something, even if it only costs a couple of pounds.


I don't want to have that horrible feeling where someone buys us a gift, but we haven't got them one and vice versa. Last year, I bought presents for all the usual suspects in my other half's family, only to be told on Boxing day when we gave them their gifts that we'd all agreed to stop buying presents for each other. Trouble was, no one had told us about the 'agreement' so there we were dishing gifts out to people who weren't expecting any thing from us.


There's even more people for us to buy for this year. Obviously, our daughter has arrived so we'll be getting her her fair share of gifts, but now my cousin has a partner, so should I buying him something even though I've never met him? And then there's my sister's lodger. I've only met her once, but she signed my birthday card, so it kind of feels like I should and she's likely to be there when we visit on Boxing day and I can'd stand the thought of anyone being left out.


All in all, I find it all so confusing! So, I'd love to hear how you decide who to buy for at Christmas.



Burnished Chaos

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6 comments

  1. Immediate family only. I can't stand the whole buying for people for the sake of it and when you don't see or speak to them all year. This year I'm buying for my husband, kids, and in laws. #familyfunlinky

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    1. I think that's a great way to look at it, but I do always worry that I'm missing someone out.

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  2. We're down to immediate family only.. which is still rather huge since my husband and I have a total of 16 nieces and nephews plus our three kids our 4 sets of parents and our siblings. We used to buy for friends and their kids and assorted aunts and grandparents too but over the years one conversation or family at a time we decided who was and was not exchanging gifts and we're down to just buying for the kids. But I still find it's quite ridiculous. For the amount of money we spend on Christmas gifts we could easily take another family vacation and that just kills me. Not that I mind buying for others but often I feel like I'm buying them something just for them to open and I wonder how long it really lasts before it gets tossed in the trash... after all how many toys does one kid/family really need?

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    1. Wow! That still sounds like a lot of people to buy for. It's great that you've managed to come to an arrangement with some of your family though as that must help a lot.

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  3. Definitely immediate family only. With most people in the family we have agreed that it’s all about the kids and we focus on them. The only people not on board with that are my oldest brother and his wife, so we still exchange gifts with them. Other than that it’s our kids, nieces and nephews and parents. My husband and I don’t even buy for each other as there’s nothing we need and prefer to focus on the kids. It can get rediculously expensive otherwise.
    Thank you for joining #FamilyFunLinky x

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    1. That sounds really good. In our families all the adults still buy for each other so it does get very expensive!

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